Never be disappointed in yourself.

Welcome to the inaugural wave of *Fika for Your Soul*!

*Fika for Your Soul* is a continuous series of articles or posts (I refer to these as waves). This series is about connecting with inspiration from everyday situations and conversations. It’s about discovery, reflection, leaning into, and stretching beyond…how we may see, understand, and express freedom, exploration, and leadership (among other things), all in the context of our daily lives.

My friend said something the other day that almost slid under the radar. It was a general statement, not directed at anyone in particular…

“Never be disappointed in yourself.”

At first glance, it’s one of those innocuous statements that could meet a response such as, “Yeah, yeah, of course not. Easier said than done”.

But my friend’s statement lingered in the air. I stared at him because something in me had responded very powerfully and very deeply.

It’s easy to sound clichéd about these things. We’re often told to believe in ourselves…a mindset reinforced with the intellectual understanding that even if we don’t succeed, we do the best that we can.

But my response wasn’t intellectual. I could FEEL the truth in what my friend was saying. What this had me REALISE, or KNOW, is that nobody should EVER feel disappointed in themselves.

…Why do I say that?

We are pretty incredible beings.

…Looking at the biology, it’s a bloomin’ miracle that everything works, and continues to work even with added pressure from the world we live in. Sure, sometimes things don’t work out, sometimes our vehicle gets ill, but more often than not it doesn’t. It soldiers on, no matter what. GRATITUDE.

…Looking at our mind, we compute an enormous amount of data and information every waking second. And, we tend to focus on what isn’t working or what we haven’t yet mastered/managed/completed. 😦 The brain is an incredible vehicle and powerhouse, and it is said that we only use 10% of its capacity. LOVE.

…Looking at our heart and soul, the mycelial connection we have to everything around us, including the cosmos, makes us pretty remarkable. Our ability to feel emotions. Our ability to love. The heart is a brilliant ally and window into our soul. GRACE.

Yet with all of that I haven’t quite gotten to the point I’m wanting to make. And the reason is…I don’t quite know how to articulate it. 🙂

…Never be disappointed in yourself.

We’re taught that the outside world is deciding what’s right and what’s wrong. It’s the same outside world that decides if we’re succeeding or not, if we’re up to the required standard. If we should congratulate ourselves, or feel disappointed.

How often do we really check in with ourselves about how we feel about our achievements? How often do we use our own measuring stick – not the outside world’s – to see where we’re at?

In a conversation with my fabulous numerologist, Frea O’Brien, she referred to my upcoming year as a ‘holy sh#t year’ (lots of big stuff in potential). As I connect the never-be-disappointed-in-yourself-statement and the journey I’ve been on for the last 10 years, I’m inspired to say it’s been a ‘holy sh#t DECADE’.

Looking at the paths I’ve travelled, the changes I’ve made in my life. Crikey. How could I ever be disappointed in myself??!

…Has absolutely everything worked out the way I thought it would, or might?


…Have I reached the goals I wanted to reach?

No, not all of them, but many, yes I have.

There’s been a lot of BIG stuff for me, but the not so big things are equally important.

What I feel is contained in ‘never be disappointed in yourself’ is a somewhat elusive but eternal inherent truth – we are all beautiful beings, inside and out.

What I’ve shared is mostly pointing to the external expression of why I shouldn’t be disappointed in myself. Which makes me wonder, what might the inner expression have to say about this…? Our world is becoming more conscious. With increased consciousness comes lots of change. It seems we’re invited to step up, for ourselves as well as for others.

…How has stepping up presented itself for you?

In my world, as uncomfortable as it is and has been at times…my stepping up is about ME showing up. Finding the courage to connect and inspire, to pursue my version of freedom, my version of me.

If you don’t mind sharing, how is stepping up showing up in your life?

Note: Stepping up isn’t only about saving or healing the world. It’s applicable in all areas of life, personal as well as professional. Also, remember, size doesn’t matter. Big or small, every step counts. 🙂

…from my soul to yours,


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Photo by: Ylanite Koppens

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