Choice, Change, and Gordon Bennett

Welcome to the latest wave of *Fika for Your Soul*. Today I’m going to lean in without much of an introduction.

When I first came across this image and its message, I almost missed it. It’s so easy for us to scroll and read on the fly. This one needed more than just a few seconds. I did what was suggested; I read the text again.

"What you are not changing you are choosing. Read that again."
“What you are not changing you are choosing. Read that again.”

…A jaw dropping and gut knocking punch later, I read it a third time.

Gordon Bennett! (read: OMG!)

Powerful, yet mind-boggling in its simplicity.

The penny dropped, there’s no escape.

…What we are not changing, we are choosing.

The reasoning that got us to where we are may seem to have been full of flaws, but here it is…

…It’s what we do from now on that matters.

As a self proclaimed anglo-linguaphile…(not sure I know how to pronounce it or if the combo exists, but I like it)…I’ve had what feels like a full blown immersion in the English language since returning to the UK in 2005. The nuances, the rich vocabulary, and the wicked ways you can express yourself makes my inner linguaphile dance with joy every day.

In a recent conversation with a Swedish friend, we talked about some of the videos and Facebook Live items that I’ve posted in the past few weeks. I’d asked her for some feedback, and I shared with her that I’d been thinking about doing videos in Swedish as well but that, somehow, that didn’t feel right.

Her response was, “You’re right, the mother-tongue for your work is not Swedish, it’s English.”


…The first language for my passion, the work I do, is English.

Surprised laughter, an OMFG!, and tear-filled eyes were my spontaneous reactions. My friend’s feedback may not seem like a big thing to you, but for me it felt like a tectonic-sized shift. I suddenly perceived myself being on the proverbial inside looking out, instead of the outside looking in. Which in turn means opening myself up to being observed and not just being the observer.

(I add the bit about the observer because, as some of you know, my focus, commitment, and dedication this year is to make sure that I show up, and that I do so fully.)

The language thing is also significant because, although I’ve been speaking more English than Swedish for many years, I see now that I’ve been speaking English mostly from my head, not my heart.

Speaking English from my heart means owning it. And it means another shift in identity.

In one Facebook Live I mentioned how important it is to say an “internal Yes” when we choose to take action, as that Yes communicates our decision to our cells.

Internal Yes to speaking English from my heart now taken care of! 🙂

In closing, I’ll leave you with this big-ish question: What would you say is the easiest way to recognise when we’re not including our heart in the equation and only approaching something from our head?

(And, sneakily, I’ll add another question… How may this be connected to choice and change?)

…from my soul to yours,


PPS! Oh, and for those who are curious about “Gordon Bennett!”. I’ve been on the look-out for an expression that I can use for moments that I refer to as “OMG” or “f*#k me” moments. Tectonic or watershed moments. With “Gordon Bennett!” I may have found it. 🙂 This expression is primarily used in the UK, and is a possible euphemism for “gorblimey”:

“Gordon Bennett!” is an expression of incredulity which alludes to the outrageous behaviour of the American sportsman, publisher and all-round hell-raiser James Gordon Bennett Jr. (more information)

*Fika for Your Soul* is about connecting with inspiration from everyday situations and conversations. It’s about discovery, reflection, leaning into, and stretching beyond…how we may see, understand, and express freedom, exploration, and leadership (among other things), all in the context of our daily lives.

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