Quantum Flirting with Something Bigger?

Wow, what an incredible couple of weeks! Have you felt it too? It’s been absolute bonkers (and wonderful!) in so many ways.

I did a short Facebook Live a while back where I mentioned how it felt like the Universe was taking a breath, that the energy had calmed down from having been quite intense a few days prior. That was temporary. 🙂

Some are experiencing that the world is seemingly going to hell in a hand basket, and the more light that is shone on us all, the more darkness and fear are bubbling to the surface.

I’ve always felt connected to something bigger, something in the subtler and unseen realms. I bring this connection into my work as a coach, mentor, sounding board, and sensing partner. It takes the form of listening to the unsaid and the unseen, the invisible. My listening to and including the invisible in the work I do is the reason I’ve decided to share what I’m about to share here today.

Some of you may think that I’m going a bit nuts as I try and describe what I notice and experience in the seen and unseen world, but it feels important to push the boundaries…

…so, without further ado, welcome to the next wave of *Fika for Your Soul*!

My experience of feeling connected to something bigger, to the field of invisible energy around me, to the collective, has grown exponentially over the last 15 years I’ve spent in the personal development field.

Although the world is still heavily driven by individualism, the notion of interconnectedness and ‘oneness’ is less fringe today as a result of spiritual evolution and the rise of, for example, the practice of compassion…

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Have you switched on what deeply motivates you?

Welcome to the latest wave of *Fika for Your Soul*!

…In the context of freedom, what role do values play?

I’ve been given the chance to reflect on this this week. Challenges and opportunities alike have had me tune into my values and energetically realign myself and find the recharge I was looking for.

Values are usually a way to organise our beliefs, to separate good from bad, and right from wrong. To make sense of what we consider moral and ethical.

…The more I explore and work with values, the more I see how powerful it is to have them be an active part of our lives and not just a list hanging on the wall somewhere.

I’ve come to see that my values are a sacred part of me.

This is actually the first time I’ve phrased it this way. As I do so, I feel a jolt in my stomach, which for me is a sure pointer to a deeper truth in the words. They’re worth repeating: My values are a sacred part of me.

What comes up for you when I suggest that our values are a sacred part of who we are?

Is there a feeling of recognition?
A lifted eyebrow?
Rolling eyes?
Or, swoosh, don’t get it?

…In my work with values I often ask, “Do your values inspire you?” (If they don’t, it may be time for a review and a refresh.) Do they bring you a sense of expansion and depth? Of coherence and wholeness? Do they nudge you to take action? To change, grow, and evolve?

Recently, while reflecting on the state of the world…as one does…I was reminded of why keeping our values alive and active in our lives is so important. But I was also reminded of the reason why I started working with values the way I do, in the first place.

One weekday morning a few years ago I woke up to the usual news. Drama, devastation, dreary predictions and projections. Something erupted in me, “The world is going mad! It’s utterly bonkers! The greed. The divisive push-pull in politics and business. The ego-manic self-interest. The demonisation. The dehumanisation. For f@*k’s sake! We’re all grown ups. Take responsibility for your actions, reactions, and projections! What happened to truth, to decency? To seeing and treating each other as human beings? To seeing that we all have equal value?

In my heart I felt disappointed, and that particular morning it felt like life had lost some of its magic.

That said, not long after my silent rant I felt an inner nudge to ‘go back to basics’…

…’Basics’ in the sense of it no longer being helpful to rely on the outside world for my bearings, for my comfort, direction, and stability. I had to find my own.

Fast forward to now.

The state of the world is still topsy turvy, but since I identified my soul’s values I no longer feel lost at sea with nothing to hold on to. I am connected to my ‘something bigger’. I can channel any overwhelm through my values and quickly find my bearings again. Part of the values process I created back then specifically identifies what I experience when I am aligned with my values (which makes it super easy to know when I’m not), and how I need to show up, who I need to be, to be true to those values. That understanding of my own inner compass helps me keep my values front and center when I consider situations and choices from the most personal to the most global.    

This awareness, knowledge, and clarity provide a deep sense of freedom, as I’m no longer swept up by the hurricanes of the world. And if I were to get swept up, thanks to being connected to my values I know I could quickly find my bearings, my equilibrium, and my flow once again.

…As we discover and switch on what deeply motivates us (our values), our energy changes. We find ourselves being empowered, more open, and more attractive because we’re coming from a deeper place. And coming from a deeper and inspired place affects our decision-making, our confidence, our creativity, and our ability to show up with integrity, compassion, and ease.

There are three core questions that I ask in relation to finding one’s soul’s or higher values. To give you an idea of what the answers can look like, I’ve added my own.

(1) What are my values, what’s the desired outcome (or purpose)?
Freedom, Light, Truth, Courage, Deep Joy, Magic, Coherence.

(2) What’s my experience when my values are present, when I’m aligned?
There’s Gnosis, Inspiration, Unconditional Love, Engagement, Excitement, Transparency, Flow.

(3) Who do I need to be, what’s my daily practice?
Being Present, Showing Courage, Listening Deeply, Being Open, Being Humble, Being Expanded, Staying Tuned to Inner Wisdom.

Combined, the answers provide touch points at three levels: mind, heart, and gut. Super easy access to staying centred, grounded, clear, and in flow. 🙂

If you know someone who could do with a chat about their values, feel free to share this post with them. Alternatively, they can reach me directly by scheduling a free call here.  

As always, I’ll close with a question. What might your answers to the three questions be? How would you answer them if you explored what deeply motivates you?

..from my soul to yours,


Maria teased out, through brilliant questioning…and lots of Swedish chill out reflective vibe/ listening, that my actual values are Exploration, Gnosis, Leadership, Vision, Freedom & Growth. I highly recommend Maria to draw out and reflect back your highest values. Knowing my values makes me fearless, attractive, and confident in every decision I take because I’ve tested it against my values set.” –Frea O’Brien, The Prosperity Map

*Fika for Your Soul* is about connecting with inspiration from everyday situations and conversations. It’s about discovery, reflection, leaning into, and stretching beyond…how we may see, understand, and express freedom, exploration, and leadership (among other things), all in the context of our daily lives.

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Choice, Change, and Gordon Bennett

Welcome to the latest wave of *Fika for Your Soul*. Today I’m going to lean in without much of an introduction.

When I first came across this image and its message, I almost missed it. It’s so easy for us to scroll and read on the fly. This one needed more than just a few seconds. I did what was suggested; I read the text again.

"What you are not changing you are choosing. Read that again."
“What you are not changing you are choosing. Read that again.”

…A jaw dropping and gut knocking punch later, I read it a third time.

Gordon Bennett! (read: OMG!)

Powerful, yet mind-boggling in its simplicity.

The penny dropped, there’s no escape.

…What we are not changing, we are choosing.

The reasoning that got us to where we are may seem to have been full of flaws, but here it is…

…It’s what we do from now on that matters.

As a self proclaimed anglo-linguaphile…(not sure I know how to pronounce it or if the combo exists, but I like it)…I’ve had what feels like a full blown immersion in the English language since returning to the UK in 2005. The nuances, the rich vocabulary, and the wicked ways you can express yourself makes my inner linguaphile dance with joy every day.

In a recent conversation with a Swedish friend, we talked about some of the videos and Facebook Live items that I’ve posted in the past few weeks. I’d asked her for some feedback, and I shared with her that I’d been thinking about doing videos in Swedish as well but that, somehow, that didn’t feel right.

Her response was, “You’re right, the mother-tongue for your work is not Swedish, it’s English.”


…The first language for my passion, the work I do, is English.

Surprised laughter, an OMFG!, and tear-filled eyes were my spontaneous reactions. My friend’s feedback may not seem like a big thing to you, but for me it felt like a tectonic-sized shift. I suddenly perceived myself being on the proverbial inside looking out, instead of the outside looking in. Which in turn means opening myself up to being observed and not just being the observer.

(I add the bit about the observer because, as some of you know, my focus, commitment, and dedication this year is to make sure that I show up, and that I do so fully.)

The language thing is also significant because, although I’ve been speaking more English than Swedish for many years, I see now that I’ve been speaking English mostly from my head, not my heart.

Speaking English from my heart means owning it. And it means another shift in identity.

In one Facebook Live I mentioned how important it is to say an “internal Yes” when we choose to take action, as that Yes communicates our decision to our cells.

Internal Yes to speaking English from my heart now taken care of! 🙂

In closing, I’ll leave you with this big-ish question: What would you say is the easiest way to recognise when we’re not including our heart in the equation and only approaching something from our head?

(And, sneakily, I’ll add another question… How may this be connected to choice and change?)

…from my soul to yours,


PPS! Oh, and for those who are curious about “Gordon Bennett!”. I’ve been on the look-out for an expression that I can use for moments that I refer to as “OMG” or “f*#k me” moments. Tectonic or watershed moments. With “Gordon Bennett!” I may have found it. 🙂 This expression is primarily used in the UK, and is a possible euphemism for “gorblimey”:

“Gordon Bennett!” is an expression of incredulity which alludes to the outrageous behaviour of the American sportsman, publisher and all-round hell-raiser James Gordon Bennett Jr. (more information)

*Fika for Your Soul* is about connecting with inspiration from everyday situations and conversations. It’s about discovery, reflection, leaning into, and stretching beyond…how we may see, understand, and express freedom, exploration, and leadership (among other things), all in the context of our daily lives.

Championing the Game of Life

Welcome to the latest wave of *Fika for Your Soul*!

*Fika for Your Soul* is about connecting with inspiration from everyday situations and conversations. It’s about discovery, reflection, leaning into, and stretching beyond…how we may see, understand, and express freedom, exploration, and leadership (among other things), all in the context of our daily lives. ‘Fika’ [feeka] is Swedish for, among other things, taking a break.

From time to time I watch Marie Forleo’s MarieTV. The other day, she aired an episode with Abby Wambach, a retired US football/soccer player, coach, a two-time Olympic gold medalist and FIFA Women’s World Cup champion, a pay-equality advocate, and much much more.

Marie welcomed us to the episode by saying, and I paraphrase… “If you want to be a champion in the game of life, this is for you”.

My ears perked up.

Something sparked in me when I heard those words. I repeated them to myself.

The vibe they carry is that of growth, confidence, expansion, and freedom. And to me, “being a champion in the game of life” translates to taking personal responsibility, something that is dear to my heart.

Some of the nuggets that stayed with me from this episode include…

…the importance of defying labels,
…stepping off the safe path into unchartered territory, and 
…leaving the pack.

Although these three points stand out to me because they’re what’s up for me right now, I’m going to stick my neck out and offer that they are universal; most of us face these one way or another, in some shape or form.

So, a few thoughts on…

Defying labels

No matter how safe they make us feel, labels also have the power to “dumb us down”. Labels make things easy. It’s easy to hide behind them. They help us conform; they help us fit in. And just as much as they can help us feel like we belong…they can also create division.

Labels help organise the world as we know it, so it’s not that labels are pointless or useless, it’s just that they can easily obscure what’s important and make us forget who and what we truly are.

As I’m writing this, I’m reminded that there’s a difference between me giving myself a label and having someone else attaching a label to me. Still, whether added by me or someone else, labels added without awareness can easily create debilitating limitations.

Stepping off the safe path

Labels have a role to play here as well. They create boxes we live in. I think of these boxes as a safe path.

One label or box, in particular, has seemed like an especially difficult one to let go of for me personally—the “employee mindset”.

Historically, the label “employee” or the box “employee mindset” is all I’ve known. It’s been sold to me as the safe, sensible, and sincere option. More or less everyone I knew growing up operated within this same box.

Looking at it this way, it’s no surprise how deep its foundation goes. Yet, I’m still taken by surprise by how solid some of this foundation remains.

Extracting myself from this “employee mindset” box…

…There’s fear, both subtle and not so subtle, of not being safe, of making “unsensible” decisions. And fear that choosing something different means being insincere about my direction and choices in life.

The way I create frameworks or boundaries for myself has been heavily influenced by this box. I constantly have to remind myself that the knee-jerk reaction or choice might not be the whole story. That there is an expanded version available that I have yet to experience.

Leaving the pack

“Successful” people’s stories seem to always have a part where they deviate from the most trodden path. Where they strike out on their own. Where they make choices that are deeply meaningful to them, which in turn take them further than they ever imagined.

A few thoughts on leaving the pack… (notes to self)

…It doesn’t have to look or feel dramatic. It can…but it doesn’t have to.

…Striking out on our own doesn’t mean we’re predatorily competitive.

…By making choices that are deeply meaningful we build strength in following our soul.

In closing, I’ll end with this…

In the conversation, Abby Wambach refers to how she used to cling to labels because they gave her what she thought she was. I can relate to this, and at the same time I find myself feeling like I’ve just woken up from a slumber thanks to a new deeper awareness of how labels play a role in who I am and the choices I make.

What’s your relationship with labels? How would you say that you are championing your life?

If you feel inspired to share, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

…from my soul to yours,


PS! I highly recommend watching the whole MarieTV episode (on Facebook). It contains many good points we can use as we take ownership of who we are and how we show up. The video is also available on YouTube.

Taking stock, and what do frogs have to do with summer solstice?

Welcome to the latest wave of *Fika for Your Soul*!

*Fika for Your Soul* is about connecting with inspiration from everyday situations and conversations. It’s about discovery, reflection, leaning into, and stretching beyond…how we may see, understand, and express freedom, exploration, and leadership (among other things), all in the context of our daily lives.

A couple of weeks ago it was Midsummer’s Eve. In Sweden, if April 30th (Walpurgis Night or Valborgsmässoafton) is a celebration of Spring, then Midsummer (Midsommar) is when summer begins.

Midsommar is the most important holiday in Sweden all year. Even more so than Christmas and New Year. I may have moved away from Sweden in 2005, but I still feel a strong pull towards Midsommar and I suspect it’s the pagan in me that’s stirring the pot.

Having said that, I don’t know much about the origin of the modern day celebrations and practices, such as for example the dancing (read: jumping with both feet around a maypole that’s covered in leaves and flowers, singing ‘Little frogs…’!)

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Never be disappointed in yourself.

Welcome to the inaugural wave of *Fika for Your Soul*!

*Fika for Your Soul* is a continuous series of articles or posts (I refer to these as waves). This series is about connecting with inspiration from everyday situations and conversations. It’s about discovery, reflection, leaning into, and stretching beyond…how we may see, understand, and express freedom, exploration, and leadership (among other things), all in the context of our daily lives.

My friend said something the other day that almost slid under the radar. It was a general statement, not directed at anyone in particular…

“Never be disappointed in yourself.”

At first glance, it’s one of those innocuous statements that could meet a response such as, “Yeah, yeah, of course not. Easier said than done”.

But my friend’s statement lingered in the air. I stared at him because something in me had responded very powerfully and very deeply.

It’s easy to sound clichéd about these things. We’re often told to believe in ourselves…a mindset reinforced with the intellectual understanding that even if we don’t succeed, we do the best that we can.

But my response wasn’t intellectual. I could FEEL the truth in what my friend was saying. What this had me REALISE, or KNOW, is that nobody should EVER feel disappointed in themselves.

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The Ingenious Connection Between our Subconscious Mind & our External World

The woman in the green jacket

Our external world gives us the best signals.

In the town where I live, I’ve seen a young woman roaming the streets, asking for change, sometimes accompanied by a man who she always walks a few steps behind, but usually on her own. She often sits on High Street bundled up in a sleeping bag.

A few months ago, I noticed she was wearing what looked like a new green jacket. This past couple of weeks, I’ve seen her more or less every time I’ve been out and about. The jacket is dirty now, and she looks tired and worn out.

One evening a couple of days ago, I was on my way to a restaurant with a friend. We came across this woman and she asked if we had any spare coins. I don’t usually have any coins on me, but this time I did and I gave her what I had. Over dinner, I told my friend about her, and that something about her seemed to stay with me.

I hadn’t been able to put my finger on what that was. There was a chunky, “blobby” feeling in my chest whenever I thought of her. It felt very uncomfortable.

Was it guilt, shame, fear, or something else? I live my life believing that, if what I perceive around me triggers me one way or another, it exists within me. So…this lady represents something in me that wants to be seen and released.

I didn’t have to poke around long to see what was going on. It was staring me in the face.

The feeling wasn’t fear of her – it was fear of becoming her.


I feel something stir as I share these words in the here and now, and there’s no shying away from them.

A timely rejection

Back in 2008, I was very close to moving to the US. At a crucial point in discussions about a job opportunity, the recession hit and that avenue closed. I continued to feel a pull to move to the US and in November 2012, I applied for an investment visa. It meant incorporating a company and investing some money in it to lay the groundwork for a visa while serving US clients from abroad.

As I walked into the US embassy in Stockholm for my visa interview in March of 2013, I didn’t “feel” it. It was as if I was in a bubble. No flow, no energy moving. Yes, I was nervous. But there was more to it than that, although I didn’t have the words for it at the time.

My visa application was rejected. I wasn’t surprised. I had a sense that the rejection confirmed something I already knew. I had followed my gut in pursuing the visa, yet maybe this was the Universe’s way of telling me it wasn’t meant to be…or, there was some other learning in it…or maybe the timing was off…

All the way through, from the first impulse in 2008 to move to the US, I’d been adamant that I would bring some furniture with me. My reasoning was that I had a few pieces from my grandparents that I didn’t want to give away, and since I was already living far from the rest of my family, I couldn’t easily return them. Or, so the story went.

I stayed curious about my stubborn determination to bring furniture. Why did I think there was a “need”? After some digging to see what was really going on, I found that I had a belief that moving to the US without furniture would mean I was homeless, with no security, and could easily become a living-under-a-bridge-with-a-shopping-trolly person. Now, I see the ill-crafted logic. Not having your own furniture doesn’t make you homeless – places can be rented furnished! But that somehow didn’t matter. I had this looming feeling that moving to the US without furniture could turn me into a homeless person.

It wasn’t until I was trying to figure out why the lady in the green jacket was having such an effect on me that I connected the dots and remembered about the visa application and the furniture.

Notice any similarities…?

Limiting beliefs

Over the past year and a bit, I’ve been training to become a certified Spiritual Practitioner. Part of the training requires getting to, and operating from, the cause-side of the “cause and effect equation”. Meaning that if I’m at the effect side of the equation, I perceive that things are happening to me. That’s victimhood. If I’m at the cause end of the equation, I realize I’m the creator, the one responsible. Exploring and learning to be “at cause” involves looking at patterns that show up and situations that trigger me in some way, and then releasing them.

Coming back to the fear of becoming the woman in the green jacket, there’s actually another piece that takes it deeper. I’m afraid of failing my new venture.

I notice my choice of words, “I’m afraid of failing my new venture”. I’m afraid of being a disappointment to my new venture, that I don’t have what it takes to do it justice, that I’m not good enough. Though that’s a lot clearer about what’s going on, it’s still somewhat covert as that wording still separates myself from myself. My venture is me, it’s my life’s work!

The above may sound a bit doom-and-gloomy, but it really isn’t!

As a Spiritual Practitioner, I have the tools to clear my limiting decisions or beliefs. Such decisions or beliefs result from traumatic events (in this lifetime or other lifetimes). Based on the experience in that traumatic moment we decide there and then to believe a certain truth as a way to protect ourselves in the future. That limiting belief gets stored in our subconscious and helps guide us forward in life. We’re usually not aware of these “truths” running our lives, and, at times, it can be somewhat tricky to find them.

I also know as a Spiritual Practitioner, when things that “show up” in my life trigger a powerful emotional response, some limiting decision or belief is poking me to be released.

For example, take the lady in the green jacket or being homeless without furniture. My underlying emotion or feeling of discomfort is a sign of something that’s ready to be released. Actively pursuing my life’s work, is triggering this deep-set limiting belief. I don’t need to figure out the details of exactly what happened when to cause this belief (to know the full story linked to the emotion). What has been, has been. The key is to identify the emotion within the trigger and ask what I make that mean about me now, and to ask that question repeatedly until I’ve gotten deep enough to reach the core limiting belief.

The true victory here is recognising the pattern and identifying the limiting belief (or core belief) that I’ve been running at a subtle level, a belief I’ve been using for a long time to make meaning of opportunities and possibilities in my life. A belief I was only vaguely aware of, off and on, until the lady with the green jacket showed up.

Zeroing in and releasing

I’m very close to nailing down the wording for this core belief. When I get it right, when I find the perfect combination of words, I know from past experience that I’ll feel that rightness as a deep, uncomfortable contraction in my chest. Despite the discomfort, I’ll welcome it, because finding the right wording for my limiting belief is the biggest chunk of the work of letting the belief go.  

The actual process for releasing the belief is fairly quick. And, incredibly powerful.

After a belief has been released, generally one of three things happens. (1) The situation or circumstance that caused the trigger disappears completely, or (2) the situation or circumstance remains but external behaviour changes, or (3) the situation or circumstance remains the same but you’re no longer triggered by it.

Knowing how powerful this release process is, I’m looking forward to shifting this core belief and seeing how I’ll show up in my life’s work when I’m not subconsciously holding myself back because of fear.

If you’re aware of patterns, or you are noticing similar situations showing up in your life that make you feel deeply uncomfortable, guilty, fearful, angry, or sad, contact me to schedule a free 45-minute Curiosity Call. You don’t have to let limiting beliefs hold you back.